The Sunday Salon: Feeling Blah about Blogging

Does anyone actually do Sunday Salon posts anymore? I don’t recall seeing that tagline in a very long time. Greetings, friends. I have been here on and off the past few months but I haven’t had any chatting time or life updates whatsoever. I do apologize for that – to say things have been busy is an understatement, and to say that I haven’t been very excited about blogging is a major understatement. Combine the two and you get what the blog has looked like lately.

So – life update! My boyfriend and I are moving to Tampa! Things with the two of us are fantastic, amazing, I just want to gush about this relationship every chance I get. We are beyond looking forward to embarking on this next phase in our life together in a new place where neither of us have ever lived before. We are in contract on a house but the closing is in about six weeks, and since we both already started at our new jobs (transfers for both, same positions new location), we are currently living back and forth between the house he has for sale in the existing place and a hotel near our new jobs in Tampa. It’s been interesting, to say the very least, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m so excited about what’s to come and really loving exploring a new place with him.

The job transfer has been stressful and a bit hard on me. I am a pretty extreme introvert, but I pass as an extrovert, which is a weird balance to have to keep up. Essentially, I fool people into thinking I’m really outgoing by being “on” when I’m with people, but that takes a huge toll on me and I need a lot of recharge time after I spend a lot of time with others. A new job magnifies those feelings by about 100x. I am meeting new people, getting to know a new team (keep in mind I am their manager), letting them get to know me, and all of that fun stuff. Plus I work with the public (banking), so there’s a new customer to meet and chat with every few minutes. All of that equals a LOT of small talk for this shy introvert. I’m happy but at the end of each day I am emotionally wiped out.

That being said, I haven’t been reading a lot and the books that I have been reading have been mostly 3-star reads. I don’t mind a 3-star or even 2-star read every now and again, but only reading 4 or 5 books a month, and thinking most of them are “good but not great” is pretty annoying. The last book I REALLY liked was Behold the Dreamers (which I haven’t even talked about here) and I think that may have been the only book I can say that about so far this year. Disappointing, right?

So I want to blog about more stuff. I want to blog about personal stuff, and what I have been cooking, and what I have been doing, and restaurants I’ve visited, and beaches I’ve visited, and places I’m traveling to, and all kinds of fun stuff, but I can’t make myself sit down and do it. I guess this post is to say that I’m considering being a better blogger but I’m also considering giving it up altogether.

Friends, tell me. What have you done when you’ve struggled with blogging? I know a lot of my blogger friends have quit entirely, or have morphed their blogs into something different than they were years ago, but I can’t figure out how to do either of those things. Help!


17 thoughts on “The Sunday Salon: Feeling Blah about Blogging”

  1. Do what works. Do short bursts abt whatever you want to share. Do it for you. Use it as a place marker in time for this new phase in life. Don’t stress what you used to think it should be. Don’t judge! WP is so easy to spend 5 minutes even just post updates.
    I say keep it, evolve with it. I just had a crazy year, too and posted only monthly. Then January hit, life was a bit more manageable and I reviewed every book I read. And I admit, I have not visited other blogs like I “should” but I let go of that and shrug it off. My blog is me and won’t let it go. (Actually I worry that WP tech might start giving my size and age issues- could be interesting…)
    Congrats on the new job and here’s hoping you get a good string of 4&5 star reads! Cheers

  2. I actually schedule posts way ahead. That way, when I go through the very frequent ready-to-quit phase, no one sees it much (except in quality – ha ha) and then I eventually get over it but meanwhile there are still posts coming out. But in truth, these phases are coming more frequently, and eventually I *will* stop – but you may not know it for a couple of months because of my pre-scheduling! :–)

    1. Thank you so much! I was pre-scheduling for quite a while but since I didn’t type up a post in a few weeks when I went to start reviewing again I was just not into it. I need to get back into some kind of flow or just give up altogether. Not sure which …

  3. Congratulations on the move and the new job – both sound exciting.

    I changed up the format of my blog when I got in a funk. Maybe you could do some bullet point type posts?

  4. Oh, man, I hear ya. I’ve wanted to quit so many times, but instead I just let the blog sit inactive for two months until I was ready to return. Blogging has changed significantly over the years. There’s less conversation it seems, and many people have migrated to Medium or Instagram. Regardless, it’s nice to have a place to be creative…

    1. That’s exactly how I feel. I am eh about it because of how different it is now, and there’s not anywhere close to the interaction I remember seeing years ago. But I do still like to share my thoughts about stuff and I think I would miss it if I didn’t have it anymore…

  5. All I know is that you have to LOVE what you blog about. There has to be a passion that will leak through to your readers. Whatever subject you choose, choose it with passion.

    1. I agree completely! I also want to love the act of blogging itself which I’m feeling so-so about these days. I’m starting to take some pressure off myself which helps a lot, though.

  6. Hi there, friend, and congrats on all the life changes! I was just in Tampa, and it was very charming and had a delicious grilled cheese truck which hopefully you can avail yourself of. :p One big thing that’s helped me with blogging is to take breaks when I need them — like especially telling myself “okay I am now on break for two months” and not even thinking about the blog in those two months. It’s a nice break, and if I find that while I’m gone I don’t miss blogging, then that would be a data point. (But so far, I’ve always missed it.)

    1. Ooh grilled cheese truck sounds amazing! I will have to find it somewhere. I like your idea of taking a break. I feel like I’ve done that unintentionally at various times over the years, but to do it intentionally might be a different thing altogether.

  7. Congrats on the new job and good luck with the upcoming move! How exciting! Lately, my approach has been to try to be kind to myself and just relax about it when I don’t feel like blogging or taking care of a particular aspect of my blog, like writing posts or scheduling tweets. I’m currently really into blogging, but at the end of last year, it was feeling like a bit more of a drag and that approach got me through 🙂

    1. Thank you Katie! I’ve been doing that these past few weeks – just scheduling posts when I feel like it and not taking the whole thing too seriously, and it does seem to be helping.

  8. What Katie Wilkins said – Be kind to yourself.

    We all started these blogs because it was something fun to do, it was a fun hobby, we talked about books we loved, we met people who liked the same things, we found (and founded!) an amazing online community. And then it started feeling like an obligation, that we had to keep up, that we had to read and review the newest things, that the only important thing was the hit counter. Somehow our blogs became less reflections of ourselves and more reflections of what we thought other people wanted to see.

    be kind to yourself. If it’s fun to blog once a week, do it. if you need a break, do it. If you want to post about places you’ve visited and restaurants you’ve been to and vacations and recipes and your dog and your garden, do it. it’s OK for your blog to evolve!

    1. I’m so with you. I appreciate the kind words, too! But I am nodding my head in agreement about what you said about how blogging has evolved so much and it’s tough not to feel like you *have* to evolve with it. I have to keep reminding myself that this is my space and I can do with it whatever I want. I don’t have to do what all the “cool” bloggers are doing. 🙂

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