MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend by Rachel Bertsche
Published by Bellantine Books, an imprint of Random House
Review copy provided by the publisher via NetGalley
Rachel Bertsche happily moved from New York City to Chicago to finally live in the same city – and apartment – as her fiance. But shortly after they get married, she realized that, while she loved living in Chicago, she was missing a crucial aspect of a happy life – best friends. All of her BFFs were back in New York and various other parts of the country. So Rachel decided to dedicate a year of her life to finding a local best friend. She tries everything – blind “dates”, online friendship meet-ups, taking an improv class, joining a book club, and more. What she discovers is that, although it’s extremely awkward and difficult to make new friends as an adult, Bertsche is nowhere near alone in her desire for new friends. Many of the women she talks to over the course of that year admit that they, too, badly want new friends but were ashamed to admit their friendlessness. MWF Seeking BFF is a hilarious, heartfelt, and at times extremely poignant memoir about one woman’s quest to find The One – BFF, that is.
I decided to read this book because Bertsche’s story is so similar to my own. Two years ago, I moved to a completely new city in which I knew not one person, besides my husband of course, who moved with me. I can completely understand where the idea from this project came from – it’s tough to literally have no friends in the city in which you live. A husband is great and everything, but there is nothing like a good girlfriend, a fact that Bertsche points out several times throughout her book, even using research to back up this claim. And truthfully, I can attest to how difficult it is to make new friends as an adult. All the friends I have made since I moved two years ago have come from three places: work, church, and wives/girlfriends of my husband’s new friends. So, needless to say, MWF Seeking BFF really hit home for me and I love the fact that Bertsche did this project and wrote about her experiences with such unflinching honesty.
And I must admit, I loved this book. I took to Bertsche immediately – I even thought about what a shame it is that I no longer live in Chicago, truly I feel that she and I would get along quite well. She details her year in a completely frank, no-nonsense way – the kind of writing that I am really drawn to in a memoir. Several of the “dates” she went on were absolutely hilarious, and the fact that Bertsche is completely self-deprecating and doesn’t take herself too seriously made these funny moments all the more hysterical.
If you are looking for a smart and funny memoir that any woman can relate to, MWF Seeking BFF is not to be missed.